If someone says to you, "I really need a friend to talk to, do you have time?" DO NOT, under any circumstance bring another person! This might sound like common sense but let me cement this in a little more: This is code for "You are the only person who I can talk to about this, please help me". It doesn't mean bring someone - even if that other person is on amicable terms. They only want to talk to you because of whatever reason including they feel close to you and feel like they can intimate knowledge of their life to you. This is a deeply personal matter that can't be discussed with anyone else. It's not a stab at someone they just need you.
It is a precious thing to ask of you your time but nonetheless they asked. It's hard to admit you need help and even if you are scared because you are not sure you can handle that or deal with them, it's going to be all right. For the most part a lot of the time, people are happy you are there to listen in general. If you are scared you might not say the right thing just say so. It might suck to hear that if we are asking for advice but it lets us know that you are human too and that you might not have the answers - all we need to know is that you support us.
I'm a little buzzed. But you know, I really needed a friend tonight. And I was sad because the friend I could talk to brought someone else. I didn't get to talk about the things I needed to talk about.
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